See, half of our chapter has decided that they want to be stick-up-their-asses bitches about who we let in and who we don’t, but not based on any GOOD reason, like bandsmanship, but based on GPA and academics alone. Because apparently if you take less than THEIR idea of the CORRECT number of classes, “what are you even doing here?” You apparently don’t have your shit together and therefore are not good enough to serve the bands.
Not to mention the fact that candidates might now have to have a higher GPA to EVEN BE CONSIDERED for Brotherhood than current Active members. And their reasoning? Well because “our process has a tendency for people’s grades to go down”. DOESN’T THAT MEAN THE PROCESS NEEDS TO BE CHANGED INSTEAD OF THE PEOPLE?!?!?!?!?
I had kind of this problem with my social sorority before I graduated, except it was opposite - we were letting in people who we really shouldn't have been letting in. The group used to have standards and was a good group of girls. But the problem was that we pride ourselves on being accepting of everyone. So therein lay the problem - we were too nice for our own good, and there were people I feel like we should not have let in who got in anyway, and now the group's going down the crapper, at least in personal integrity and GPA. We never had a specific requirement beyond the one general Greek Life has - 2.5. And we were making more and more exceptions and suspensions of the constitution to allow girls to remain active whose GPAs were falling below this level. Come on. And of course, I could never say anything, because if anyone thought I was somehow bashing them and their choices, I would get blasted, talked about behind my back, and considered an annoying pest.
One time, our group decided to do a bar crawl, just us, as an optional social event. Fine. I was not planning on going, okay, whatever. So (to my later chagrin) I didn't pay much attention when they were talking about tshirts and what have you. Well, day came, and almost all of my sisters were wearing BRIGHT ORANGE tshirts declaring they were "EUGaholics." (We're the Euglossian Society, Epsilon Upsilon Gamma), and a picture of a skunk (our mascot) with a huge mug of beer and a list on the back of bars. I was flabbergasted and totally offended. I did NOT want to have an alcoholic image label just because I'm part of this group! Besides, alcoholism is a disease, and it was blatantly making fun of a serious medical condition afflicting millions of people. They wore these tshirts ALL DAY. They were impossible to miss. I sent out an email to the group saying that I have nothing against the bar crawl, but that I wish they would not advertise to the whole campus that we are alcoholics. A sister of mine (a pledge class sister no less) replied, TO EVERYONE, with a scathing retort saying that don't worry, she thinks having fun with sisters is a good thing, and that we shouldn't be such tightasses about drinking, and that everyone she's talked to thoguht the shirts were great. Well, I doubt she talked to any professors, and I did. They thoght the same as I, and one was even an honorary member. ARGH. From that point on, I ceased mentally to be a part of that group, and the only reason I didn't go inactive or turn in my letters was that I was two months away from singing out as a senior.
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Not to mention the fact that candidates might now have to have a higher GPA to EVEN BE CONSIDERED for Brotherhood than current Active members. And their reasoning? Well because “our process has a tendency for people’s grades to go down”. DOESN’T THAT MEAN THE PROCESS NEEDS TO BE CHANGED INSTEAD OF THE PEOPLE?!?!?!?!?
I had kind of this problem with my social sorority before I graduated, except it was opposite - we were letting in people who we really shouldn't have been letting in. The group used to have standards and was a good group of girls. But the problem was that we pride ourselves on being accepting of everyone. So therein lay the problem - we were too nice for our own good, and there were people I feel like we should not have let in who got in anyway, and now the group's going down the crapper, at least in personal integrity and GPA. We never had a specific requirement beyond the one general Greek Life has - 2.5. And we were making more and more exceptions and suspensions of the constitution to allow girls to remain active whose GPAs were falling below this level. Come on. And of course, I could never say anything, because if anyone thought I was somehow bashing them and their choices, I would get blasted, talked about behind my back, and considered an annoying pest.
One time, our group decided to do a bar crawl, just us, as an optional social event. Fine. I was not planning on going, okay, whatever. So (to my later chagrin) I didn't pay much attention when they were talking about tshirts and what have you. Well, day came, and almost all of my sisters were wearing BRIGHT ORANGE tshirts declaring they were "EUGaholics." (We're the Euglossian Society, Epsilon Upsilon Gamma), and a picture of a skunk (our mascot) with a huge mug of beer and a list on the back of bars. I was flabbergasted and totally offended. I did NOT want to have an alcoholic image label just because I'm part of this group! Besides, alcoholism is a disease, and it was blatantly making fun of a serious medical condition afflicting millions of people. They wore these tshirts ALL DAY. They were impossible to miss. I sent out an email to the group saying that I have nothing against the bar crawl, but that I wish they would not advertise to the whole campus that we are alcoholics. A sister of mine (a pledge class sister no less) replied, TO EVERYONE, with a scathing retort saying that don't worry, she thinks having fun with sisters is a good thing, and that we shouldn't be such tightasses about drinking, and that everyone she's talked to thoguht the shirts were great. Well, I doubt she talked to any professors, and I did. They thoght the same as I, and one was even an honorary member. ARGH. From that point on, I ceased mentally to be a part of that group, and the only reason I didn't go inactive or turn in my letters was that I was two months away from singing out as a senior.
So yeah. Long story short, I feel ya. *pats*